The American Academy Child and Adolescent Psychiatry wrote an article titled: The Teen Brain: Behavior, Problem Solving, and Decision Making and and stated that, “Many parents do not understand why their teenagers occasionally behave in an impulsive, irrational, or dangerous way. At times, it seems like they don’t think things through or fully consider the consequences of their actions. Adolescents differ from adults in the way they behave, solve problems, and make decisions. There is a biological explanation for this difference. Studies have shown that brains continue to mature and develop throughout childhood and adolescence and well into early adulthood.” (http://tinyurl.com/3r6yxch)
Decision making and choices is not just something that teenagers are faced with but everyone has to deal with choices. Good choices and bad choices-in every aspect of our lives. Whether those choices be in what we choose to eat or wear, say or do. Everyone has to make choices. This quarter the Spearsville Road Church of Christ has decided to study how to make Bible based moral choices. There are five yet profoundly important choices every person must make because they will greatly affect our lives: choosing to become a Christian, choosing a career, choosing a mate, choosing your friends, and choosing where you live.
- The most important choice a person who has come to the age of accountability-the age where the person knows that he or she is guilty of sin-must make, is whether to become a Christian or not. This is the question that the prophet of God, Joshua asked the Israelites “…choose this day whom you will serve, either the foreign gods or the True God. But as for me and my family we choose to serve Jehovah God.” (Josh.24:15) Will you follow Jesus? Will you become one of His disciples by accepting His gracious offer of salvation as found in Matthew 11:28-30? Jesus offers rest to all those who are tired and burdened down by sin. promising salvation to those who will submit to His will (Matthew 28:18-20). This is one important choice you cannot ignore, you will have to make this choice-you don’t have a choice! This one decision will affect your life more than any other. It will have a bearing on every other decision you make in life and will determine whether those decisions are good or bad.
- What do you want to be when you grow up? This decision will either be a detriment to your spirituality or a help to it. From a worldly viewpoint, your choice is important, it can have a lasting effect on your marriage, family and service to God. However, if you make the choice to honor God first your will be blessed. Jesus said, “ But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” (Matt. 6:33) Making a lot of money should not be the primary concern, saving one’s soul should be (1 Tim. 6:9,10).
- Perhaps one of the longest lasting decisions a person makes is that of choosing a mate. This choice will determine to a great degree your happiness. Proverbs 12:4 speaks of how much joy an excellent spouse can bring to the home, but by the same token how much pain a bad spouse can bring to the family. The scripture compares a bad spouse to “…rottenness in his bones”. This choice will have a permanent bearing on your children, on their emotional well-being, on the way they will be reared and it may even impact on whether they may become Christians-ultimately determining if they will go to heaven. The choice of who one will marry must not be made lightly. It must be made with God in mind. One must choose a made based on God’s word (Jer. 42:6; Mal. 2:16; Matt. 19:9); knowing that God hates divorce, and that marriage should be between one man, one wife and for life.
- The apostle Paul said, “Do not be fooled, bad friends corrupt good morals.” (1 Cor. 15:33). Our choice in friends can bring wonderful blessings (Prov. 17:17), and choosing the wrong friends can bring about curses (Prov. 12:26; 1 Cor. 15:33). God wants His children to choose their friends wisely.
- Choosing where to live is also an important choice we must make. It is important because this decision can affect our worship to the Lord, our spirituality as a family. Consider the day when Lot chose the fertile and rich land of Sodom. His desire to farm the fertile land blinded him to the devastating moral dangers that lay in wait for his family. Years later angels had to take him by the hand and lead him out of Sodom. He lost his home and wife in Sodom. Pitching his tent in Sodom was a mistake. Making his home on Gomorrah where there was money was a good business decision but a bad family decision. (Genesis 13)
God has given us a lot of direction to help us make good choices in life and to avoid disasters in the future.
- We should start by asking God for wisdom. He has promised to give wisdom to everyone who asks in faith (James 1:5-8). However, we must ask for wisdom with all perseverance and diligence (Proverbs 2:1-9)
- Humble yourselves and accept that you do not have all the answers-ask others for advice. Proverbs 11:14 teaches that there is safety in the wise counsel of others, and even more wisdom when we heed their counsel (Proverbs 12:15).
- Accept that when we make the wrong choices God will let us know! When He does let us know ask God that we have enough wisdom to know to accept, repent, and change course. Don’t continue doing the wrong things, change!
The Spearsville Road Church of Christ would like to help you study God’s Word. Please accept our offer to come into your home and have an in home Bible Study. We invite you to come and worship with us during our worship times.